Love of the Week

I am not a huge fan of country music – I’m a 90s Grunge girl myself – but I do love a good country song title. Take, for instance, “Thank God for Unanswered Prayers” by Garth Brooks.

Sometimes we want something so badly it hurts. And later, we come to find out that thing we wanted would have hurt us back even worse.

Along the same line, I’m feeling massive gratitude today, Thanksgiving, for the lessons my biggest mistakes taught me.

Don’t get me wrong. Of course I’m also grateful for all the well-gotten goodness and unearned grace in my life. But those whoppers? I thank them for clobbering me over the head with “You should know this, Suzy, and now you’ll never forget it.”

I describe these mistakes in excruciating detail in this week’s podcast, but very briefly – so we can all get back to the stuffing – I will recount them here.

1. I essentially squandered my Harvard education by majoring in Japanese art of the Edo Period. Sumptuous, sure…but utterly obscure.

Lesson: When life gives you a gifthorse, ride it until you both drop from exhaustion.

2. I married my high school boyfriend because we liked the same Bryan Ferry album. Hello, not quite a good-enough reason.

Lesson: Forgiveness is the most beautiful gift you can give others…and yourself. This is us today, celebrating Thanksgiving together.

3. I got myself spectacularly fired. Do not recommend, but then again, maybe I do.

Lesson: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is actually true. Good to know.

I promised to keep this short and so I will leave it there. Except to add, it was decidedly not a mistake to create Becoming You, but if you want to hear me cry about it, you will have to listen to the podcast.

Hate of the Week

I hate the fact that some people hate going home at Thanksgiving, but I get it, family can be hard.

How’s that for an understatement?

But look, it can be less hard, when you have a neutral language to talk about hard things, like values. That’s what the Values Bridge offers. This probably sounds like a sales pitch, but my God, I believe it to my core. The thing that makes me the happiest is when I hear stories about how the Values Bridge has helped families talk to each other again, without acrimony and judgement. And I hear them all the time.

To that end, this week, we are offering a special rate to facilitate that: Use code FAMILY20 to save 20% on your total purchase when you buy three or more Values Bridge assessments.

I will be awaiting your stories after the stuffing runs out.

Hmm of the Week

My favorite dog shelter, Big Dog Ranch Rescue, the source of my beloved Happy, Miley, and Pierre, has just received a shipment of Dachshunds from a breeder in Oklahoma who has no more use for four older males. They’re done working, so out they go.

I am wondering…well, you know what I am wondering.

Thoughts, anyone? Just don’t tell me this would be a mistake I will be grateful for eventually. I already know that, like 100%.

Just as I know how grateful I am for you, now and always,

What's coming?

→ January 2026 Three-Day Becoming You Intensive here

→ May 2026 Three-Day Becoming You Intensive here

→ Becoming You Certification Program, learn more here

Three Really Stupid Mistakes I’m Thankful For This Thanksgiving. How About You?

Happy Thanksgiving, Becoming You community. Before turning to the four things I'm happily thankful for right here and now, I examine three significant mistakes I've only grown grateful for over time. This Thanksgiving, I encourage everyone to sit with the paradox of gratitude—for the detours that redirected us, the lessons that only time could teach, and the unexpected places where meaning takes root. Let's keep becoming us, together.

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